About 1.5 million high school students are abused by their partners each year. One in 10 high school students has been purposefully hit, slapped, or physically hurt by a boyfriend or girlfriend. Many young adults are going through an abusive relationship and they don’t know how to get out of the situation. Some of them feel that the partner that is abusing them loves them and cares for them. Victims may think it’s their fault. They may think they made their partner upset about something they did. The abuser often attempts to make the victim feel guilty and the victim often says sorry or finds away to make their partner happy again. Some abusers often show signs such as they become over protective, jealous, other emotional changes. Some threaten to hurt themselves if you say you will leave. Some start checking your cell phone and social network accounts.
When the victim starts to notice any of these signs they should immediately leave the relationship.
Men are not the only ones who abuse. Women can abuse too. It’s more common for men to be the abusers.
There are many kinds of abuse such as emotional, physical, and sexual. None of these are okay. If someone is making you feel bad about yourself because you won’t do what they want, that person doesn’t love you. It doesn’t matter how many times they say they are sorry or that they are going to change, get out of the relationship the first chance you get.
These are examples of an unhealthy relationship.
Nenitab • Apr 22, 2014 at 8:50 am
Its really hard to accept that you are in an unhealthy relationship. You kinda depend on the person that’s abusing you for some reason. I have been asking myself what would I really do if I was in a relationship like that?
Honestly, it is easy to give advice but it is always hard when you are the one facing the tough situation yourself….you don’t know what to do. When you love somebody, its hard to accept that all they do is hurt you!
I would say, just keep strong ladies and really learn how to pick the right person for you. Remember, If that person hurts you more than what he loves you, then something MUST be wrong!
audreyjolene • Feb 27, 2014 at 10:30 am
I know I was in one, for 21 months. I kept going and saying it was okay. He never physically hurt me. It was more verbal abuse, and emotional. I could see all the bad things happening and him saying sorry and then saying it was okay. I also didn’t want to believe I was in one so that’s also why I just said “it was okay” to him and moved on. But finally after hearing about this more than once in my parenting class I knew I was in one and I had to get out of it, because it was not just hurting me but my daughter too. I’m happy to be out of the relationship but now my daughter doesn’t have a Dad. Which is okay. But it was the best for the both of us.